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Positive Affirmations

Why is one person sad – the other happy?

Why is one person fearful and anxious – the other full of faith and confidence?

Certainly the way we think about things affects how we feel and behave. The confident person who believes in themselves will view and embrace opportunities positively.

The person full of fears and self-doubt will question opportunities and view them with negativity – ‘I might fail, I can’t do that, what will others think of me?’

This person may feel as though they are not getting far in life, they often feel stuck. However, thinking this way can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Affirmations are simply any positive or negative statements that we make, as we go through life. They can be automatic statements or statements made on purpose i.e. with intent. If we pay attention to these statements they will eventually affect a change. Rather than listening to negative statements we can learn to use beneficial ones in order to create positive changes in our life.

If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got - Henry Ford

This relates to our mind and the way we think about things. This thinking often results in self-talk / self-dialect. Unfortunately this self-talk is generally unproductive and reinforces the negative way we are thinking, feeling and behaving.

The use of positive affirmations go back to Emile Coue and the law of concentrated attention – ‘whenever attention is concentrated on an idea over and over again it tends to realise itself’
They originate from an affirmation he used:

Everyday in every way I am getting better - Emile Coue

Emile Coue was a French psychologist and pharmacist in Brittany, France – he discovered the power of the imagination and auto suggestion – for good or bad. Around the 1870’s he noticed when he gave a remedy (prescription) with some positive suggestion it worked better than the remedy alone. ‘Take this – it is absolutely amazing, you will feel so much better’. This relates to the placebo effect and could influence the outcome of the remedy in many individuals.

The principal behind the working of positive affirmations is similar to that of drops of water falling on a rock. A few drops will not make any difference to the rock but if the drops fall continuously, then, over a period of time, the rock will be worn out i.e. they will have created a change.

How can it help me?

It's human nature to worry about things especially when you are HIV +. The trick is to not let that rule over you and define you. Flip the switch and use your thinking to build rather than to tear down. Choose to repeat positive statements rather than negative statements because your subconscious will accept whatever you tell it, and will then do it's best to make it become reality – for good or bad.

Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right -

So rather than accepting a self-doubt such as 'I can't do that' - which is likely to result in you not even trying, say to yourself 'I will do my best to try.'

How do I use it?

We do already! We all use natural, automatic statements which might be something like:

'What a beautiful morning – the sun always lifts my spirit'

'There is always a lot of traffic in the morning and I am always late for work'

There are both positive and a negative natural, automatic statements there and these types of statements happen all the time without us really thinking about them.

We can learn to use statements which are made on purpose – also known as a statement of intent or an affirmation because we are saying how we want things to be. Obviously if we are using these statements or affirmations purposely we need to ensure they are positive and for our benefit. They might include statements / positive affirmations such as:

  • I am healthy
  • My body is strong
  • I am healthy and strong, I live my life to the full
  • I can manage my condition
  • I can ask for help or support
  • I can choose who I want to tell about my HIV status and when
  • HIV is my business and no one else’s
  • HIV does not define me, I do
  • I am living life to the fullest
  • HIV will not hold me back or get me down
  • I can have fantastic life

Your affirmation toolbox

  • Make affirmations that are short and to the point
  • Repeat them when your mind isn't engaged in something important 
  • Use them when feeling relaxed and focused
  • Pay attention to and believe in the words you are repeating. Stronger faith in what you are saying can bring faster results
  • Use positive words with no negative connotations. For example say, "I'm a healthy person!" Instead of, "I'm getting healthy." 
  • Use the present tense, not the future tense. Saying, "I will be healthy," uses the undetermined future, not right now. It's better to say, "I am healthy!" and your subconscious will work to make this happen in the present.

Positive Affirmations resources

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What's in this resource?

  • Introduction To Positive Affirmations (.pdf)

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  • Writing Statements Of Intent And Positive Affirmations (.pdf)

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  • More About Statements Of Intent (.pdf)

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